When you get to adulthood, having heroes is interesting. The older you get and the more experiences you go through, the more you realise that people are just people.
But maybe that uncomfortable feeling that I’ve been feeling as a result of not having a vehicle to push forward and seek personal growth is necessary. Maybe I have to get better at just sitting, being present and not continually worrying about the future in a positive but negative feedback loop of self-development.
How many athletes go to the Olympics each year in search of that coveted gold medal, with their own backstory, own life’s work and own team behind them, willing them towards victory? But how many of them come up short? Undoubtedly it’s the vast majority.
However, the ideas behind all of these team-sports are the exact same. Own possession, own the territory battle, create the space, find the space, convert the chances and put the opposition under pressure.
So although I learned the hard way that workaholism will inevitably lead to burnout and that there definitely comes a point where you need to switch off and relax, I wouldn’t change what I went through for the world.
Ultimately there are things that are outside of our control. And we need to accept those things as they are. The only thing that we have control over and that we must accept responsibility for is our own effort.
Attaching ourselves to the outcome is what generates fear. “What if I miss?” “What if I score?” In order to get rid of persistent fear, we must stop asking ourselves what if questions. We must learn to accept that the only thing that we can control is our efforts. So, that is what we should focus on.
Different words have different meanings for different people. So, we can’t just expect that someone knows what we’re talking about when we give them instruction.
After each conversation I am left with a real sense of who the guest I am speaking to is as a person, a deep connection to their story and an intense admiration for their diligence, drive and level of self-awareness.
What got the athletes to this point, will likely not get them much further. You can only squeeze so much juice out of an orange.